Archive for November, 2014

#15. Friendship

Posted: November 13, 2014 in Uncategorized

I know the general thinking is that family is the most important relationships you can have in your life, and there is some merit to that.  I love my family.  We maybe don’t have the best relationship, but I do love them.  I just wonder if my friendships mean more to me.

There is an openness with friendships that you don’t have with family.  You truly can say anything to a friend.  I know parents tell their kids, ‘honey you can tell me anything’ but do they really mean that?  Do they really want to hear everything?  I am 41, I am a man, but I am sure there are things that my parents still really don’t want to hear about my life.  Friends however you can dump it all on them.  If they are good friends they will listen.  If they are great friends they will listen, not pass judgement, or hold it against you.

Friendships are so diverse.  I have a very good friend here at work that I am close with.  We talk about a lot of different things and he knows things that few others know.  I also know that he might sometime take a different job and move.  If that happens I am pretty sure our friendship will slowly die.  That isn’t to say we wont talk, but it just won’t be as much or the same.  All of this is ok.  This is ok because I believe there are people in your life at certain moments to fit a role.  You might not even know what that role is, but they are fitting some sort of need in your life.  So I would encourage you to embrace those friendships.  There is something to learn from them as well.  Not all friendships are meant to last.

I have a couple of friendships that are very special to me.  These are friendships outside of the one I have with the person I live with.  That friendship is the best of all.  The two I am referring to are very different ones, but have similarities.   Both are people that I don’t talk to all of the time, but we have our periods or spurts.  I just happen to be in spurts with both of them right now.  They are both people who will be in my life forever.  I just know it.  One is some who we just clicked from the moment we met and still click.  That friendship is 95% cyber.  Gotta love the world we live in.  The other one is with someone who we shared experiences that less than 1% of the population will ever experience.  Our friendship is more of a brotherhood.  I am not sure what my point is really other than to say thank you to these people and everyone else that I consider a friend and who considers me a friend.

Life can be empty from time to time, even when it appears to be full.  When it is like that for me I know it is a friend I want to talk to first.  Not my family.  I wonder why that is?  Ummm something to ponder.  Maybe it is back to knowing that they don’t really want to hear everything.

I really love reading David Brooks.  He wrote this fairly recently.

I know I am rambling, but that is what I do.  I guess what I am saying is, enjoy your good friendships.  Don’t ever take them for granted.  You know which ones are good.  Just enjoy them.